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Daily Photo – Zebras and Water Buffalos
It's nice to see these little pods of animals in such close proximity to one another. It was almost like there was some kind of animal-dropper from high above that says, “Oh, let's put 10 zebras here and 34 giraffes here and 24 elephants over there.” Over a week, you'd think you would see every possible combination, but that's just not the case. Just looking at these photos makes me want to go back again, and soon! This time I want to bring my kids since they are a little less bite-sized.
So, my wife, Tina, and I have something we have not yet shared with the world. I’m sort of a public person since I’m an artist with all that social media fun/nonsense, but I don’t put 100% of everything out there. I’m fairly measured and keep a healthy amount of private family time offline.
My wife Tina, post surgery… I’ll add in more pics throughout the story.
But this one is kind of a big one, and my wife and I decided to share it together to help raise money for her cancer doctor’s charity that is directly related to the whole situation.
The short version of the story is that Tina was recently diagnosed with an unusual form of cancer — the same kind Steve Jobs had. Bad news, to say the least. It struck us especially hard because of our three young kids. It was probably harder on me than I wanted to admit, but our focus was of course on figuring out how to get Tina better. The exact diagnosis was Neuroendocrine Cancer and they found malignant tumors on her pancreas and liver. Super bad news.
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Back to the story
This was much different on our first family trip to Dunedin where we took the kids to the chocolate factory and they absolutely loved it. I walked by the chocolate factory every day on the way to the hospital and thought of them.
Almost immediately, she was scheduled for major surgery in Dunedin, New Zealand, which is about a four-hour drive from our home in Queenstown. We made A LOT of drives back and forth for consultations, prep, and all that sort of thing. Any of you that have had major surgery knows all the logistics and worry that goes into it.
She needed to have a big portion of her pancreas and liver removed. Her spleen had to be removed as well. It was one of those all-day events and everyone was very nervous. But her surgeon, Dr. Audeau, did a masterful job. I remember in all the surgery prep I would mostly just watch his hands to see how smooth and elegant the movements were. They were steadier than mine, so that gave me a little confidence boost.
Even though the surgery went smooth, she spent almost two weeks in the hospital. There was quite a bit of ICU time. Dunedin hospital is not exactly the most hospitable place for being a hospital. It’s all socialized medicine here, so they have to cut a lot of corners. One of the worst parts of it for Tina was having to share a room with three other INSANE people. They had their fair share of older crazy people that just had surgery — they would moan and freak out all night, fight the nurses, try to rip out all their IVs and more crazy shit. It didn’t help Tina’s mind too much with all that nonsense.
This is the consultation before the actual surgery. I was watching his hands like a raven. They were steady and his penmanship was spectacular. This set me a bit more at ease.
The food was also rubbish and not the kind of organic, good food a healing body needs. Since I was there with her, I’d bring good veggie food to try to keep her spirits up. After about 10 days, we were able to walk downstairs to the little hospital cafe. That was a good day. We had some vegetable soup while her IV dripped away.
This is a very strange form of cancer because of the way it grows. It doesn’t respond to radiation or chemo. There’s still a lot of mystery around it. We were bound and determined to do something different than Steve Jobs. He used some kind of homeopathy and drank a bunch of apple juice or some shit. Homeopathy is total BS and if we had gone that path, Tina would be dead now too. I do agree it can have good effects mentally and you can do a lot of internal healing, but you can do that sort of positive mind work WHILE getting actual medical care. Then you’re attacking the problem from two angles. Anyway, I’ll stop with all my opinions on that… the point is that what we chose is working.
Tina started doing A LOT of research on this stuff. She’s very clever (has her Bachelor of Science in Computer Engineering so she has one of those analytical minds). She found this wunderkind doctor in Denver who is an expert in Neuroendocrine Tumors named Dr. Eric Liu. We made a decision to go see him after Tina felt better to get another opinion about what to do next.
Yet another problem with this type of cancer is that it returns nearly 100% of the time.
We saw a lot of this.
So, what is her current status? I’ll repeat something I heard at the hospital that makes it pretty clear. Spouses staying at and around a hospital for several weeks is a strange thing. It’s such a weird place in so many ways. It’s kind of like the DMV for sick people… you get all sorts in there, I tell ya. But I ended up making friends with random people. Like there was this one Kiwi guy who was about 50. What a nice guy. He always had this five-o’clock shadow and a sly smile at the ready.
This gentleman was coming in every day, multiple times, to visit his ailing brother. That guy was in really bad shape, having to have his esophagus rebuilt from intestines or some crazy shit. I don’t know how they figure this stuff out. Anyway, we would have coffee and talk… and about a week into it, I asked how his brother was doing. And that’s the quote I’m going to steal for describing Tina’s situation. He raised his eyebrows and said, “Well,” before squinting his eyes and peering off into the distance. “I like to say that we’re out of the forest, but there’s still a few trees around us.”
The food was so bad at the hospital that family members kept cutting out newspaper articles and taping them up in all the waiting rooms. It just made everything more depressing.I took photos of every single menu in Dunedin then would bring them into Tina so she could have exactly what she wanted.
Fast-forward several months. Tina is back at home recovering and getting better. She couldn’t drive or do anything really for three months. For her, it took a bit longer. We had her parents come in to help while I went into super-dad mode. Not that I (ME -TREY) is a character in this story you need to feel sorry for or anything, but it did wreak havoc on my personal and professional life. It is very challenging because of course, I make money from my art and photography, most of which came to a near standstill. I do appearances around the world, public speaking, sponsorships, and the like. I had to cancel events in Scotland, speaking events with Apple, a huge European tour to ten cities, countless business meetings, and more. And all of this is causing a lot of stress because I have to be husband, dad, and breadwinner, and the last one is completely off the map. We have a little company here at Stuck In Customs and The Arcanum that has about a dozen employees. I have to pay all these people and a big chunk of the responsibility of creating wealth to bring into the company is my job. So, while all this stuff is going on, I’m having to re-arrange the entire financial flow of the company. Okay, enough about that… I figured it out by the hair of my chinny chin chin and all is good now.
Parking in Dunedin with all the idiotic parking meters, I hate it. I was constantly moving the car and getting these things to put in the window. I almost went Cool Hand Luke one day and cut them all down.On the plus side, Dunedin has lots of interesting street art. It’s one of my favorite things about it. Honestly, often times I would get quite nihilistic in my thoughts… sometimes art was the thing that kept me going.
How did I deal with it all creatively? Well, I’ll put that at the end of this story.
So, fast-forward a few more months. Tina is up and moving around and doing quite well! She’s doing a bit of exercise, she’s dropped a ton of KGs (apparently the cancer was making her body do all kinds of bad stuff… she was suffering from all kinds of strange side-effects from weight gain to double vision to other unspeakable things). So she’s getting better now — great! We got a few CT scans and she looks to be in the clear. We decided we’re going to make the pilgrimage to Denver to see the legendary and venerable Dr. Liu! Thank you again to my friend Dr. Javier Bustamante for making the connection.
He’s very active on Facebook and social media too, which I like. He shares a lot of knowledge and gives a lot of people hope. I also find out that he has a HUGE CRUSH on Taylor Swift. When we’re setting up our appointment, I mention that at my agency at CAA in Hollywood, that Taylor and I have the same agent. I’m still working on hooking you up Dr. Liu. She’s really busy, you know. Don’t give up hope yet. Hey TAYLOR if you’re reading this, contact me yo! You stayed in my friend Sir Michael Hill’s home when you were here in Queenstown and saw my art on his wall. I imagine you were in some silken robe while drinking a martini and admiring it. I don’t really know if you do this or not, but I pictured it.
When we went out to Denver to see the GODKING HIMSELF Dr. Eric Liu. He walked in wearing a cape. Or well, he should have.And oh yeah, Denver has a lot of legalized pot stores. And lots of amorphous hippies wearing tube tops. There were 10 within walking distance of our hotel — the pot stores not the tube top hippies. There were lots more of those.
So we fly out to Denver to see Dr. Liu at the Rocky Mountain Cancer Center. He’s a heck of a great guy with an amazing bedside manner. He’s among the first in the USA to get this special scanner called a Gallium-68. It’s some crazy Star Trek scanner that is very good at seeing these Neuroendocrine Tumors. But the FDA hasn’t approved it yet, so we got to stand NEAR the machine. Oh, what would we do without the FDA to protect us? How about market forces? Oh well. They’re in use in many other countries. There’s even one in New Zealand. We couldn’t use that one though for some reason. It’s hard to figure all this stuff out.
But now it is finally approved. In the next two weeks, the whole family is going back to Denver to see Dr. Liu to get the actual scan. We also are going to San Francisco to try to see Dr. Emily Bergsland at UCSF. We’re making the rounds to make sure she has the best treatment!
I’ll be happy to give updates in the new year as we figure out more. Again, we ask for your support for our upcoming charity event. Grab Chatter for iOS or Chatter for Android. Find me, and have a donation or two! Thank you in advance.
Also, I know cancer has touched many of your lives. It’s good to know there’s a common warriorhood of Bodhisattva out there with us. Thanks! And a special thanks to all our friends and family that are helping us through everything.
Here is Tina is looking at her latest scan while Dr. Liu is reading some poor sop on the phone the riot act and letting his eternal fury unleash like the screams of a thousand gods.
To end, I thought I would share this. Since this is all a very unusual event for me, there are of course many options. I’m already a very zen dude. Oh, book recommendation btw: The Untethered Soul. So, it has helped me get even better with that sort of practice. Cancer is not new to my family. My dad has it. My sister has it. And, like most people, I have to deal with lots of crazy stuff the universe throws at you. Over the years, I’ve gotten pretty good at re-shifting and focusing my energy in creative ways. I’m not perfect by any means, but I’m learning. I have a massive amount of energy (read the book above to see why) — and I have to do something with it! And so then, I wanted to create something to help me (and others) understand more about life and death and what the fuck does it all mean. I had no idea what to do for a project.
Then it came to me. I have been traveling to over 100 countries around the world and capturing a ton of interesting quadcopter footage. I’ve never known what to do with it all. Then I thought I’d make a mashup. I’d mash that up with two of my other favorite things: The music of Hans Zimmer and the words of one of my favorite philosophers, Alan Watts.
This took about three months to put together, and it was during that three months before the surgery when everything was quite unsure and on edge. Maybe it some insights about our paths as we all snuggle between birth and death.
I made this video below as a gift for Tina and for you. I love her very much and I love you very much too.
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Daily Photo – Decisions, Decisions
Which one to swim in? Is it better to swim in the pool that is body-temperature or the ocean down below where it's also body-temperature? These are the kind of life-or-death decisions you have to make on vacation sometimes. In this particular case, I chose both and was pretty happy with both decisions. This was shot at the Four Seasons in Bora Bora — what a spot!
Whenever I look something up in Wikipedia, I tend to go down a little rabbit hole. But I found the Burj Al Arab entry to be pretty interesting! I’m just into buildings and architecture, even though I really don’t know much about it at all…
Daily Photo – Another Sailing Design
Yesterday's Sydney Opera House photo and today's photo of the Burj Al Arab in Dubai have a lot in common. They are both inspired by things-nautical. The opera house is based on waves and this is based on a huge sail. There's something else about this building that causes a lot of confusion with the scale of it. It's absolutely massive and I believe it's one of the tallest hotels in the world.
We were on a fabulous yacht in the middle of Sydney bay with my friend Dave Maxwell. At one point, we convinced him to somehow do a backflip off the boat into the sharky waters. He did it without hesitation! I declined the temptation to try it myself! 🙂
Daily Photo – The Amazing Sydney Opera House
This is just one of those buildings you never get tired of seeing. I think it was built sometime around the time I was born. I don't remember if it was a controversial design at the time or not. Sometimes this stuff comes out and people really dislike the boldness of the lines. I believe the same thing happened with the triangular Transamerica building in San Francisco.
My first instinct when taking photos of incredible places like the Blue Mosque is to try to get a “clean” shot without anyone in it. I still do that as my “main” photo, but I also try to get shots with some or even a bunch of people in it. I think we shy away from this because it feels like a shot that all the “tourists” get too, but it can still be quite interesting.
Daily Photo – Entering the Blue Mosque
After I took off my shoes and walked inside, this is what I saw. It was majestic! It's fun to be in a place like this where you know 99% of people are seeing it for the first time too. There's kind of this collective “awe” energy that is very fun. Everyone is in there depositing good vibes and it makes the whole spectacle more spectacular! 🙂
We could not do a live show at this location because it was too remote, but there was ANOTHER Boomrock we visited. Here’s that Live video here:
Daily Photo – A Panorama of Boomrock
Our amazing day at Boomrock ended here at sunset. We raced cars, shot skeet, then knocked golf balls off the edge of this cliff into the ocean. Awesome! This is also the spot of the ill-fated golf-shot were we took out one of our quadcopters. The battery shot out the other side and will probably never be found again. (We did recover the quad then our friend Jonatas somehow magically fixed it!)
Here’s highlights from our great photo walk there. Thanks again everyone for coming out! 🙂
Daily Photo – A Duck at the Lincoln Memorial
Here's one of the fun shots I got during the DC Photowalk. I was laying on the stomach with my daughter Scarlett right beside me. I let her help… all kids love taking photos of animals. It's a great way to get them started.
Yes, I’m still hosting all my images on Smugmug. They’ve been a great partner and service for us through the years. Thanks Smugmug!
Daily Photo – Hollywood Hollywood!
I'd like to sincerely thank my good friend Caleb for taking me behind the Hollywood sign one evening for a beautiful photo session. The only thing missing was some of his yoga instruction! It's really hard (as in pretty much IMPOSSIBLE) to get into this position. He told me the incredible and unbelievable story about how he got access. Just amazing. This place has so much security… we're talking Dept. of Homeland Security level activity. We got waved through so many guards to get back here… I'll never forget it!
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Daily Photo – Countless Unmelting Glaciers in Antarctica
One day when I choppered over the main continent, I got to see more glaciers than I had in my entire life combined. They were everywhere. Most of them terminated on this hard black rock here which made for quite a stark contrast. Also, the glaciers here are not melting, so most of them just end with white ice terminating on black rock. Each one of them seems to have a nice perfect shape too, a wide tongue of shining white.