See you soon, dad, in the next simulation!

This was a good one!
Ahhh, sorry to see my dad go. But he had a good one, you know? Loved his kids, raced cars, built golf courses, made people laugh, and generally tried to make things better 😃
I’m back in the USA to attend his ceremony at Sparkman/Hillcrest Funeral Home. As with my dad, all are welcome. I suppose I’ll get up and say some words to celebrate his life and tell some funny stories? That’s how he would have wanted it, I think. A bit of a party and celebration for all that loved him.
It’s all good, you don’t have to say you’re sorry in the comments, I have another idea if you want to comment in the last para. But, first, here’s why you don’t have to say you’re sorry: I’m good with my dad! You all know I’m a zen guy. But, besides that, I had no unresolved issues with him. I knew he loved me. I knew he was proud. And vice-versa on all issues. What else could ya want with your pops?
If you want to leave a comment, why not say some little thing you like about your dad?

  • Chuck Mattern

    Your Dad sounds really cool!

    My Dad, who is still with us but getting closer to the end of this episode, can help people become amazing doctors by teaching them Violin or some other musical instrument, is known for being tougher to fight than a certain NFL interior lineman, can laugh heartily at himself, has totally reinvented himself a few times and still moves mountains even in his 80’s!

    Thanks for sharing your Dad with us and listening to me share mine.

  • My dad’s name was Fred. My old mammy said she wouldn’t name a dog Fred, but they loved each other and their children fiercely. My mum’s 90 now, but my dad died 12 years ago, aged 78. You would have liked him Trey. Fred was a kind and generous man devoting himself to helping so many disadvantaged souls around the world. He was a boxer, though he didn’t like hitting people, and a long distance runner in his day. Fred had a distant relative who, at one stage, was world champion back in the days of bare knuckle fighting.

    I wish I’d had the opportunity to meet your dad Trey. Sounds like he’d have a tale or two to tell.

  • I lost my Dad 15 years ago and the world was never the same. The man was a rock. Raced motorcycles when he was a kid and was on his way to becoming nothing because his Dad passed away far too young. Fortunately, a good high school principle saw something in my Dad and turned him around. By the time I came around, Dad had a sense of responsibility, family and he knew the priorities that made sense.

    It’s not like I planned it, but I am just like my Dad. That’s a good thing. It’s crazy when I hear myself saying things to my daughter that are exactly like the things he used to say to me, even of those things drove me crazy as a kid. When someone tells me that I’m just like my Dad, I can’t think of a better compliment. Stanley Beem passed far too early, but he’s always with me. A good dad really does last forever.

  • Martin Hagen

    I never had such famous, brave or nice Dad – sad story. But i am and will be one for my kids, with all my love. I wish my kids think the same about me, if i meet the rest of the good dads in Heaven :-).
    I am happy with you Trey!

  • IshaRa Deborah Coulthard

    Your beautiful words about your Dad brought tears to my eyes. All through my teens Dad and I fought like crazy – kind of like the “old bull, young bull thing”, but I was female ;). He was angry and mean and screamed at us a lot, and seemed like a completely different person than the loving, funny Dad I remembered as a kid. Many, many years later when I was in my mid-50’s we started to really communicate with each other and healed all that drama from the past, and I’m SO glad we did. It turned out that Dad went through a period of horrible stress at work, and felt like his whole life had fallen apart…….and we never knew!!!!! Now Dad’s 85 and getting frail, and the love between us is as strong as when I was a little girl <3

  • Linh Davis

    Dear Trey, My condolence, your dad sounds like a very nice person who had lived a fun life – someone I’d loved to have known.
    Back in the days, when I came along… My father is a young parent, he is not perfect, but he has tried his best to make a good life for his family.
    All the best, love, Linh

  • Praying for you Trey, and your family.

  • Cal Mukumoto

    My Dad showed me how to use a camera. He studied photography at Art Center in LA. He fought in WWII against the Germans and attended Art Center on the GI bill. He unfortunately did not make a career in photography, but he did teach me about composition and so much more…

  • gavz

    I am sorry for your loss Trey.

    My dad is still alive – he has an absolute love of nature (and has chased this dream through his professional and personal life). I grew up just wanting to be like him (and hope that his upbringing has rubbed off on me) – it’s so nice seeing him in retirement, both my mum and my dad living out the travel adventures they desired during his working life (but didn’t have the financial or time freedoms to achieve).

    Dad is a keen photographer – I have memories of dad bringing out his SLR film camera on family trips and slide shows at night were always a treat (he only ever shot on slide film!).

    Like other posters have mentioned, it’s funny to reflect on the good (and bad) qualities that I’m exhibiting while raising my kids – who are 7 and 4 currently (and often reflect on my behavior being that of my dad and not myself). I wonder if they will notice a similar pattern when they have kids? …

  • Mina

    My dear friend your words remind me of the love and sheer awe for my late step father. He taught me how to forgive and be compassionate to others, at all times. For this I will always be grateful. Thank you Abaji (Dad)..

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