The Story of my Wife, her Cancer, and The Healing NET Foundation Charity Event

So, my wife, Tina, and I have something we have not yet shared with the world. I’m sort of a public person since I’m an artist with all that social media fun/nonsense, but I don’t put 100% of everything out there. I’m fairly measured and keep a healthy amount of private family time offline.

My wife Tina, post surgery… I’ll add in more pics throughout the story.

But this one is kind of a big one, and my wife and I decided to share it together to help raise money for her cancer doctor’s charity that is directly related to the whole situation.

The short version of the story is that Tina was recently diagnosed with an unusual form of cancer — the same kind Steve Jobs had. Bad news, to say the least. It struck us especially hard because of our three young kids. It was probably harder on me than I wanted to admit, but our focus was of course on figuring out how to get Tina better. The exact diagnosis was Neuroendocrine Cancer and they found malignant tumors on her pancreas and liver. Super bad news.

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The charity I’m supporting here is the one for my wife that was created by her cancer doctor, Dr. Eric Liu. It’s called The Healing NET Foundation.

Back to the story

This was much different on our first family trip to Dunedin where we took the kids to the chocolate factory and they absolutely loved it. I walked by the chocolate factory every day on the way to the hospital and thought of them.

Almost immediately, she was scheduled for major surgery in Dunedin, New Zealand, which is about a four-hour drive from our home in Queenstown. We made A LOT of drives back and forth for consultations, prep, and all that sort of thing. Any of you that have had major surgery knows all the logistics and worry that goes into it.

She needed to have a big portion of her pancreas and liver removed. Her spleen had to be removed as well. It was one of those all-day events and everyone was very nervous. But her surgeon, Dr. Audeau, did a masterful job. I remember in all the surgery prep I would mostly just watch his hands to see how smooth and elegant the movements were. They were steadier than mine, so that gave me a little confidence boost.

Even though the surgery went smooth, she spent almost two weeks in the hospital. There was quite a bit of ICU time. Dunedin hospital is not exactly the most hospitable place for being a hospital. It’s all socialized medicine here, so they have to cut a lot of corners. One of the worst parts of it for Tina was having to share a room with three other INSANE people. They had their fair share of older crazy people that just had surgery — they would moan and freak out all night, fight the nurses, try to rip out all their IVs and more crazy shit. It didn’t help Tina’s mind too much with all that nonsense.

This is the consultation before the actual surgery. I was watching his hands like a raven. They were steady and his penmanship was spectacular. This set me a bit more at ease.

The food was also rubbish and not the kind of organic, good food a healing body needs. Since I was there with her, I’d bring good veggie food to try to keep her spirits up. After about 10 days, we were able to walk downstairs to the little hospital cafe. That was a good day. We had some vegetable soup while her IV dripped away.

This is a very strange form of cancer because of the way it grows. It doesn’t respond to radiation or chemo. There’s still a lot of mystery around it. We were bound and determined to do something different than Steve Jobs. He used some kind of homeopathy and drank a bunch of apple juice or some shit. Homeopathy is total BS and if we had gone that path, Tina would be dead now too. I do agree it can have good effects mentally and you can do a lot of internal healing, but you can do that sort of positive mind work WHILE getting actual medical care. Then you’re attacking the problem from two angles. Anyway, I’ll stop with all my opinions on that… the point is that what we chose is working.

Tina started doing A LOT of research on this stuff. She’s very clever (has her Bachelor of Science in Computer Engineering so she has one of those analytical minds). She found this wunderkind doctor in Denver who is an expert in Neuroendocrine Tumors named Dr. Eric Liu. We made a decision to go see him after Tina felt better to get another opinion about what to do next.

Yet another problem with this type of cancer is that it returns nearly 100% of the time.

We saw a lot of this.

So, what is her current status? I’ll repeat something I heard at the hospital that makes it pretty clear. Spouses staying at and around a hospital for several weeks is a strange thing. It’s such a weird place in so many ways. It’s kind of like the DMV for sick people… you get all sorts in there, I tell ya. But I ended up making friends with random people. Like there was this one Kiwi guy who was about 50. What a nice guy. He always had this five-o’clock shadow and a sly smile at the ready.

This gentleman was coming in every day, multiple times, to visit his ailing brother. That guy was in really bad shape, having to have his esophagus rebuilt from intestines or some crazy shit. I don’t know how they figure this stuff out. Anyway, we would have coffee and talk… and about a week into it, I asked how his brother was doing. And that’s the quote I’m going to steal for describing Tina’s situation. He raised his eyebrows and said, “Well,” before squinting his eyes and peering off into the distance. “I like to say that we’re out of the forest, but there’s still a few trees around us.”

The food was so bad at the hospital that family members kept cutting out newspaper articles and taping them up in all the waiting rooms. It just made everything more depressing.I took photos of every single menu in Dunedin then would bring them into Tina so she could have exactly what she wanted.

Fast-forward several months. Tina is back at home recovering and getting better. She couldn’t drive or do anything really for three months. For her, it took a bit longer. We had her parents come in to help while I went into super-dad mode. Not that I (ME -TREY) is a character in this story you need to feel sorry for or anything, but it did wreak havoc on my personal and professional life. It is very challenging because of course, I make money from my art and photography, most of which came to a near standstill. I do appearances around the world, public speaking, sponsorships, and the like. I had to cancel events in Scotland, speaking events with Apple, a huge European tour to ten cities, countless business meetings, and more. And all of this is causing a lot of stress because I have to be husband, dad, and breadwinner, and the last one is completely off the map. We have a little company here at Stuck In Customs and The Arcanum that has about a dozen employees. I have to pay all these people and a big chunk of the responsibility of creating wealth to bring into the company is my job. So, while all this stuff is going on, I’m having to re-arrange the entire financial flow of the company. Okay, enough about that… I figured it out by the hair of my chinny chin chin and all is good now.

Parking in Dunedin with all the idiotic parking meters, I hate it. I was constantly moving the car and getting these things to put in the window. I almost went Cool Hand Luke one day and cut them all down.On the plus side, Dunedin has lots of interesting street art. It’s one of my favorite things about it. Honestly, often times I would get quite nihilistic in my thoughts… sometimes art was the thing that kept me going.

How did I deal with it all creatively? Well, I’ll put that at the end of this story.

So, fast-forward a few more months. Tina is up and moving around and doing quite well! She’s doing a bit of exercise, she’s dropped a ton of KGs (apparently the cancer was making her body do all kinds of bad stuff… she was suffering from all kinds of strange side-effects from weight gain to double vision to other unspeakable things). So she’s getting better now — great! We got a few CT scans and she looks to be in the clear. We decided we’re going to make the pilgrimage to Denver to see the legendary and venerable Dr. Liu! Thank you again to my friend Dr. Javier Bustamante for making the connection.

He’s very active on Facebook and social media too, which I like. He shares a lot of knowledge and gives a lot of people hope. I also find out that he has a HUGE CRUSH on Taylor Swift. When we’re setting up our appointment, I mention that at my agency at CAA in Hollywood, that Taylor and I have the same agent. I’m still working on hooking you up Dr. Liu. She’s really busy, you know. Don’t give up hope yet. Hey TAYLOR if you’re reading this, contact me yo! You stayed in my friend Sir Michael Hill’s home when you were here in Queenstown and saw my art on his wall. I imagine you were in some silken robe while drinking a martini and admiring it. I don’t really know if you do this or not, but I pictured it.

When we went out to Denver to see the GODKING HIMSELF Dr. Eric Liu. He walked in wearing a cape. Or well, he should have.And oh yeah, Denver has a lot of legalized pot stores. And lots of amorphous hippies wearing tube tops. There were 10 within walking distance of our hotel — the pot stores not the tube top hippies. There were lots more of those.

So we fly out to Denver to see Dr. Liu at the Rocky Mountain Cancer Center. He’s a heck of a great guy with an amazing bedside manner. He’s among the first in the USA to get this special scanner called a Gallium-68. It’s some crazy Star Trek scanner that is very good at seeing these Neuroendocrine Tumors. But the FDA hasn’t approved it yet, so we got to stand NEAR the machine. Oh, what would we do without the FDA to protect us? How about market forces? Oh well. They’re in use in many other countries. There’s even one in New Zealand. We couldn’t use that one though for some reason. It’s hard to figure all this stuff out.

But now it is finally approved. In the next two weeks, the whole family is going back to Denver to see Dr. Liu to get the actual scan. We also are going to San Francisco to try to see Dr. Emily Bergsland at UCSF. We’re making the rounds to make sure she has the best treatment!

I’ll be happy to give updates in the new year as we figure out more. Again, we ask for your support for our upcoming charity event. Grab Chatter for iOS or Chatter for Android. Find me, and have a donation or two! Thank you in advance.

Also, I know cancer has touched many of your lives. It’s good to know there’s a common warriorhood of Bodhisattva out there with us. Thanks! And a special thanks to all our friends and family that are helping us through everything.

Here is Tina is looking at her latest scan while Dr. Liu is reading some poor sop on the phone the riot act and letting his eternal fury unleash like the screams of a thousand gods.

To end, I thought I would share this. Since this is all a very unusual event for me, there are of course many options. I’m already a very zen dude. Oh, book recommendation btw: The Untethered Soul. So, it has helped me get even better with that sort of practice. Cancer is not new to my family. My dad has it. My sister has it. And, like most people, I have to deal with lots of crazy stuff the universe throws at you. Over the years, I’ve gotten pretty good at re-shifting and focusing my energy in creative ways. I’m not perfect by any means, but I’m learning. I have a massive amount of energy (read the book above to see why) — and I have to do something with it! And so then, I wanted to create something to help me (and others) understand more about life and death and what the fuck does it all mean. I had no idea what to do for a project.

Then it came to me. I have been traveling to over 100 countries around the world and capturing a ton of interesting quadcopter footage. I’ve never known what to do with it all. Then I thought I’d make a mashup. I’d mash that up with two of my other favorite things: The music of Hans Zimmer and the words of one of my favorite philosophers, Alan Watts.

This took about three months to put together, and it was during that three months before the surgery when everything was quite unsure and on edge. Maybe it some insights about our paths as we all snuggle between birth and death.

I made this video below as a gift for Tina and for you. I love her very much and I love you very much too.

  • Trey, thanks for sharing this, I know it is not an easy thing to do. I hope all stays well!

  • My mother HAD the same thing. In addition to her liver and pancreas, it got into her lymph system. She’s been free of it for over 5 years now – – so don’t give up hope.

    The doctors used her as sort of a human guinea pig for a new drug (I can find out if you want). Let me know if you want more info and I’ll find out from her the specifics. You can contact me through my website above.

    My best to you and Tina and your family.

  • Denise Batis Loudaros

    First of all thank you for sharing…it can’t be an easy thing to do.
    I have met Tina and even had brunch with her! We were all on the maiden voyage of the Disney Fantasy back in 2012…We had brunch at the adults only restaurant Palo’s. It was only her as you didn’t have dress clothes for the cruise and there was a dress code to eat there. We had a wonderful meal, the 7 of us, and talked and talked. We would see you both and your family several more times during the cruise…on the ship…in different ports searching for wifi…fun times for sure.
    I pray Tina gets the medical care she needs and life can return to it’s crazy normal. I will pray for your family and of course the doctors taking care of her….
    All the best to you and your family….

  • ckdozi

    Interested to know what this drug is, thank you. Will check out both the books, Trey suggested and the one you have posted. All best health and Love to all.

  • Isaac

    My thoughts go out to you and your family, Trey. Although it may seem that challenges like these are near impossible to prepare for, being so spontaneous in nature, it seems that you have been preparing most of your life. Your calm zen, your ever-flowing energy, your unique way of seeing and seeking all things of true beauty; you have been guiding your mind and heart for challenges like this forever. As in the ideas watts is speaking in your video; you are all experience, and all experience is forever with you. May peace follow you and yours through this time, and may love and strength carry you all through the hardest of your challenges. You spread a lot of beauty and love, and so these things follow you closely. I hope that Tina finds the best help that she can, and that she continues to be a source of life, love, and inspiration for you and your family, and all that know her for a long time to come.

  • Randal Jaffe

    My thoughts go out to you and your family and especially your wife. You have given so much to many people it is our turn to give to you.

  • carfield

    Take care and will pray for you and your family!

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  • Thanks Sir @Lightofisaac:disqus – very nice of you

  • Thank you @denisebatisloudaros:disqus — I remember that well! 🙂

  • Great to hear! 🙂

  • Yes me too – post away @waynewirs:disqus 🙂

  • Thanks old friend 🙂

  • Kam Broumand

    Lots of love and prayers for you and your family Trey! Wishing Tina all the best!

  • Bill Claxton

    I am a patient advocate for NETs, based in Singapore ( I heard about your wife’s case and enjoyed reading the blog post. She seems to have done the right thing with the Whipple procedure, finding a centre of excellence and getting a Ga68 PET/CT. Please drop me a note to williamc [at] and we can share thoughts regarding your wife’s ongoing care.

  • Roger Garlin

    Can’t fully explain just why, but reading your story has made me deeply sad. Perhaps because through reading your blog and using your spectacular software products, I have over the years come to believe I know you personally. Your delightful daughter’s YouTube channel made me even further enamored of you and your family. My heart aches to hear of Tina’s woes, and i know you have had to be so stoic in pain and uncertainty too. חֲזק וּבָרוּךְ Be strong and blessed.

  • Will do. I’ll have to get ahold of her and have her dig through her records (it was 5 years ago), but will post here when I have the info.

  • LuAnn Hunt

    Hope springs eternal. Thank you for not only sharing your incredible talent with the world, but your incredible love story as well. My heart weeps for you just knowing you and Tina and your family are going through life at this moment in a way you never imagined. However, I read hope all through your blog post. You share hope when you post beautiful photos and share that amazing video! Hope is a healer, along with the prayers of thousands that are coming your way. God is in control. May the next chapter your share of your family’s life be one of remission, health, love and joy!

  • Trey,

    I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but it’s good to put your thoughts out there:)

    My Mom recently had cancer and now is completely free of it. She gives much of the credit to becoming deeply dedicated to Yoga & mindfulness practices during the time while she had it. Now she now teaches a specialized form of Yoga to women who have or have survived cancer & continues to practice daily. I’m sure she would be happy to provide your wife with some tips. Drop me a line if you’re interested, no pressure of course either way:) [email protected]

    Also, a book that’s really helped me out is The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy. Sometimes he uses religious examples that I don’t necessarily agree with, but the teachings of the book are spot on. I’m starting your book recommendation today.

    Keep filling your heads with positive thoughts!

  • Jeri Mearns

    Trey, our prayers are with you and your family.

    Jeri Mearns
    Arcanum apprentice
    Long time Stuck-in-Customs reader

  • Hi Trey, I’m so happy that the news is looking good for you, Tina and the family. You know I was really worried. We learn so much about ourselves through adversity. More important, I think, is the fact that we learn to appreciate the simple things in life and make the extra effort to be good to others and to take time away from the hurly burly for ourselves and our own, individual creative journey. One positive from this adventure must be that your love for each other will have deepened and intensified through this shared ordeal. Congratulations to Tina for fighting her way back through to the light.

  • Matt Paulson

    Thanks for sharing. As a father of 3 kids also, I can’t imagine being in a similar situation. Best wishes for you and your family.

  • Stu – SIC

    Hey all, just a quick note to say Trey and the family are travelling in the USA at the moment, including seeing the doc again. He’ll be checking messages as much as possible while running around after the kids and all the craziness a massive trip causes. So if he doesn’t respond you know why but he does read them all and I’m sure will appreciate them. 🙂

  • oldhickory49

    Hey Trey, so sorry to hear about Tina. I met her (and you of course) at a photo walk at the wharf in Monterrey a few years back. Really enjoyed chatting with her. Cancer, “The Big C” strikes fear in everyone’s heart and the older we get, the more we realize that it eventually intrudes on all our lives, one way or another. Sounds like you guys are doing all the right things and hopefully you’ll both be able to look back on this as just a bad dream.

    All the best to you and your family. Got my fingers crossed.

  • gavz

    So sorry to hear this news! My thoughts are with you and your family as Tina goes through treatment. As a father of two young children I couldn’t imagine how tough this is on you guys – stay strong and positive!

  • Blake Morphis

    Trey, I appreciate you sharing this candid and very moving post. I’m really sorry you and Tina, and your family, are going through this. I am glad you are seeking the best care the world can offer, never settle for anything less. Love is what gets us through the hardest of times, so much love and good health to Tina, and to you and your family.

  • Matthew J Photos

    Trey, I am so incredibly sorry to hear about what Tina is going through, along with what you and your family are going through also. I too have been touched with cancer in my family, with my grandfather dying from lung cancer. I can’t even imagine. I am happy to hear you are making your way to the states for what sounds like amazing care. You have been such a warm, caring and giving soul with your work, you website, your view on life, the world, all the way down to every budding photographer out there you pass your love on down to, that look up to you. You are one of the reasons I got into photography with such a passion for it, all from following you in my early days when I was just beginning. So, all of us who love you and your work, we all send our many thoughts, prayers and love to Tina, you and your whole family, on the order of millions and more. We’ll be there to support you through this all, as you have done for us. Stay strong!!

  • elginz

    I am really sorry to hear this.

    I wish you and your family the best.

  • Cindy Flood

    Trey, I will be praying for Tina and your family.

  • Tim Naramore

    Trey – you and Tina and your kids are in our prayers. Take care of yourself as well – you’ve got a lot riding on your shoulders and it is easy to neglect caring for the caregiver.

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  • Thank you Matt 🙂

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  • Thx Jeri 🙂

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  • Margaret Gaines

    Hi Trey – I’m sorry to hear your family has had to deal with such a huge challenge. I hope Tina continues to get better and beat her cancer. I also want to thank you for posting this wonderful story. I found it so peaceful and hopeful and the timing was perfect. I had surgery 7 days ago for an aggressive form of breast cancer and I expect the coming year to be less than easy. I know my 13 year old son is very worried about what our future holds, and you gave me a story of hope to share with him. I don’t normally post to people’s blogs, but I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you and Tina for sharing your story and I will keep her in my prayers.

    Margaret Gaines
    (an Arcanum Inception Apprentice)

  • Jason Piper

    Trey I’m so sorry to hear about the difficult time you and Tina are going through. I can’t imagine how hard it is on your family dealing with this. You will all be in our thoughts and prayers.

  • Shari Miller

    Sending you & your family much peace & a sense of healing presence to surround you all. Be gentle on yourselves…

  • scottygraham

    Trey…your words tear right through me. I am a cancer survivor too…my cancer is/was similar to what Tina is suffering from…it’s events like this that put everything into perspective, and I am so proud to hear how you and your family are dealing with this dreadful disease. I am 100% certain that your positive attitude and Tina’s positive attitude will get you through this. I (and I am sure all of your fans) are with you, Brother. Stay strong!! Please give your wife a big virtual hug from a complete stranger!

  • Healing thoughts and peace for you and your family Trey. Big huge hugs for everyone.

  • Riooso

    Thoughts and prayers Trey!

  • Andre

    wishing Tina, you and your family all the very best.

  • Jayne M SIlberman

    I am so sorry, Trey … wishing you all strength and healing! My thoughts are with you daily!

  • Bruce Dillahunty

    My prayers are with you guys… hang in there.

  • Dude. What a story and so honestly told. Wishing you an Tina and the kids all the best! Don’t give up.

  • Positive thoughts and prayers for your wife and family !

  • Hope

    I lost my Mom to cancer 3 years ago. I hate cancer. This experience changed me indescribably. I’ve questioned life, questioned who I am, and questioned why we are all here. Here is a video that helped me in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your story and your heart. I am praying for Tina as well as you and your family. Life is a gift… We are all Miracles

  • Laura Ellis

    Trey, your spirit is amazing throughout your tales of heartache. I wish you and yours all the best that life has to offer.

  • Much love to you and your family Trey.

  • Trey, as many have previously said, I too have lost my dad to the disease and can empathize with you and your family. How lucky she is to have a committed husband, hero and friend. Thank you for spending time with us (hanging with you in DC and @ NASA KSC) and now unplug and do that voodoo that you do so well. With prayers – Guy

  • Danny G

    Trey, I have told countless people what an amazing person you are. This has been not been based on just watching you online, it is because I have had the honor of meeting you and sharing (albeit small) conversations with you each time we have met at events. Sharing this story with the world proves what I have known about you – as a person – you are inspiring in many more ways than just photography. Like you said, many of us have cancer stories. For me, it was losing both parents to it. Like others have said already – your incredible attitude and positive energy while dealing with this has a huge effect on the progress made thus far. There is only one way to win, and that is to keep fighting! I am sending my best energy to Tina, the girls and to you my friend.

  • Wayne Leary

    My thoughts are with you and your family Trey, Good Luck Tina in getting treatment.Wayne Leary Invercargill

  • Philip Porter

    What an inspiration you have been to me to get back to enjoying photography after a long dry spell, but also for life…
    My family will be praying for Tina, you and your family!

  • Paul Johnston

    Hello Trey,
    Very sorry to hear about Tina’s situation and the hardship it places on you and your family. I’ll keep you and Tina in my thoughts and prayers and wish the best for all.

  • Bob

    I’m so sorry about your family’s struggles and I hope your wife has a full recovery. Life is very difficult sometimes, but you can at least know that you’ve brought some sunshine into the lives of a lot of people through your art.

  • kpjimmy

    Thoughts and prayers to you and your family for a speedy recovery. Please remind me of the android version of the Chatter app if you can when it’s released.

  • John T. Fowler

    Thank you for sharing this, and the good news about Tina’s progress. As a survivor of pretty much the same thing (if not so severe – we caught it early), I find it an honour to extend sincere best wishes for the future. One day at a time – treasure every one.

  • Scott Bennett

    All the best to you and your wife. My daughter went through the big C at six. Wish I had the “out of the forest” line in my repertoire.

  • Glen Orsak

    Trey, I wish you a clearing and some sunshine on your path ahead through the forest. Thank you for sharing your experience – in its raw and unfiltered form. You are an inspiration for so many – there is no doubt that you provide inspiration for Tina and your kids as well – just in the way you live your life. Sending universal love to you and your family from snowy Canada.

  • Linda Marquette

    Sorry to hear the news about your wife Trey. And thank-you for sharing such personal information. It sounds like she is getting the best care. Great that you are doing your research and getting second, third opinions as I would do the same. I work for one the best Boston hospitals and I still get second opinions when it comes to my health. With the family support and a strong, supporting, loving husband combined with the best medical care, I am sure she will continue to stay strong.
    Thank-you for sharing your story. You will all be in my prayers.

  • Susan Caplan

    Wow, had no idea Trey… will keep your whole family in my thoughts.. scary times I’m sure. . Thanks for sharing your story. .

  • Our thoughts and prayers go out to you, Tina, and your family. We are thankful to hear she is doing better. I am a registered nurse by trade (FT job) as I mentioned in the past. I am also a patient having had the big “C”. I can empathize with the fear, uncertainty, and other emotions that go with its diagnosis. I commend you guys on your spirit and Zen. Keep the faith. Together we can all beat the crap out of cancer and learn to live, laugh, and love in the process. Peace to you and your family, Trey.

  • Regretela

    Thank you for your story and the amazing video. My family is going through some tough health and living decisions right now and your letter and video are so uplifting and helpful to me when I become sad and overwhelmed by these challenges. But these are huge lessons for me, and I am learning amazing truths everyday. Again, Trey, thank you.

  • Sending so much positive energy to you, Tina and the kids, Trey. Cancer never solely strikes the person with the diagnosis. The entire family becomes racked with fear, shifts roles, leans on and supports each other in one way or another. Keep reaching beyond those trees. I’ll be cheering you on.

  • Esteé Hallatt

    Your photographs bring me such joy, and I had to catch my breath to read that your life, despite such beauty in your art, have been affected by the C-word too.

    Sending you all (especially Tina) ALL the good vibes for the tough days ahead!!!

    “We’re out of the deep, but still paddling water.”

    (Quote Source –

  • knowingwhispers2014

    Trey, sorry to hear about the health issues of your wife. Thank you for the courage to be vulnerable and the gift of your inner child through your work. We all live forever in our inner child.

  • greentrade

    Trey, so sorry to hearing the news. You’ve been a huge inspiration for me, in photography, and most importantly in life. I wish your wife and your family the very best. Please know that your fans are with your family through the tough times ahead.

  • Trey, thanks for sharing your story. Cancer sucks, but it obviously informs us on how we think about life and death. Deep lessons. There is some blessing in that. Thanks for sharing your lessons learned. Peace and healing to your family!

  • Alsy

    All the best to you and your family. Fingers crossed …

  • Trey, we’ve never met or spoken. Yet you, and your art, have had a tremendous impact on my life. When you released that Zimmer/Watts video, I was deeply moved by it. It had a spiritual “wind” behind it. Now I know why. You, Tina, your children, and your whole family will be part of my daily prayers, until you’re out of the forest – and the trees. I’m also making a donation to the charity. Peace to your house.

  • ckdozi

    Thank You. My dad is 81 and has the same thing, was diagnosed in November. And, because of your post I am connected with support groups associated with Dr. Liu, and it is supportive and comforting. I wish you and your family miraculous results, as for all who are suffering.

  • Stephan Bollinger

    Trey, I don’t have the right words to express my feelings of sadness and joy at the same time. Sadness over what happened to Tina and your family, and joy to read that she feels much better now. As someone who has known about it for a while, I was thinking of you and Tina often, and even though I’m not a religious person, I hope I was able to send a few tiny good vibes through the universe your way. I wish you, Tina and your entire family lots of love, energy, and only the absolute very best! Bear hugs, my friend, from the other side of the Tasman.

  • zonie6044

    Trey, we’ve never met or talked, but like many others here, I’ve followed you for a long time and your art has affected me deeply. Learning about this situation in the past few days was a shock. Just want to express my concern, and prayers for Tina, for you and the family, for healing, and for peace in the midst of difficulty and turmoil.

  • Hi Trey, I feel sorry for your wife and all that she and your family had to go through. Nobody deserves this and certainly not someone who is as warm-hearted as you are. I am sure Tina is just like you, even though I haven’t had the pleasure to know her personally. At the same time, I am glad you did the right thing, sought competent medical advice and didn’t go all-in with that homeopathy BS. Here’s wishing Tina a speedy recovery and heading to check Chatter now. Namaste!

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  • Jammie Graves

    Trey, May God continue to Bless you and your family with miracles and rest!

  • Njmoleman

    Trey, So very happy to hear Tina is doing better. Each day that goes by will put more of a gap between you both and the “Cancer”. I say it that way as its now coming up on 3 years since my wife’s last radiation treatment. Cancer became that evil thing that the doctors helps us beat into a corner and have kept there. Good medical advice, amazingly competent doctors, and the support of friends, who drove her to the treatments, even in snow storms, while I had to go to work, to her rad appointments an hour each way, who fed us to the point where we had to tell them to skip days as there was no more room in the frig. So while it was a dark time, I got to know who my friends really were. Thank you so much for sharing your life. You spoke to things I have haven’t even talked to my wife about. Those fears, life restructures, and little things that almost made you go over the edge.
    May peace be with you and your family and the future only be bright and happy.

  • Robb Charles


    Thank you for sharing your many gift’s. You have a great talent to make other’s happy. I appreciate your thoughts and your direct approach. I have lost my Dad very recently and have gone so many mixed emotions. Your helpfulness, flair, and imagination has helped me with my own “dark horses.” I know you will keep Tina strong and on the direct path with your combination of choices. All the best to your family as you stumble through those hurdles.

  • captainkimo

    Sorry to hear about your wife’s cancer Trey but glad to hear she is doing better.

  • wow what a crapstorm to go through – must be super stressful . 🙁

  • Hey Trey, I am wishing you the best of luck with this fight. I lost lost my best friend to a rare form of cancer in December of 2015. He was the one that got me started in photography and travel. I will certainly support you as you have helped me over the year and kept me inspired. If there is anything else that I can do, just let me know.

  • Thank you ALL for the nice and loving comments 🙂

  • I am wishing you all the luck, science and heartfelt best wishes in you and your lovely families fight against cancer. I have lost family from cancer and every year I give to cancer research until it hurts. My love to you and your family through this difficult time.

  • Trey, may God bless you for having such a positive attitude in the face of such difficult times. I truly believe that God will not let you go through any challenge that you cannot bear. You and your family have endured this challenge with grace and optimism and hope. May He richly bless your for enduring this experience.

  • Trey, I am heartbroken to hear about your family’s troubles. I only met you once, but I know you are capable of making it through this temporary diversion and on to more great things. My thoughts are with you and your family!

  • Catherine Walker
    Dear Trey, This is a link to a soup created years ago by a Dr. Alexander Sun who was a cancer researcher who did cancer research at both Harvard and Yale. He created it from various vegetables and herbs from the Chinese culture to help his mom who had cancer. She recovered. It has helped many who are fighting cancer…myself, my mother-in-law included and it may be of help to your family. It’s sold as a food – mushroom soup to make it available.

  • Pavlik Andreïevitch Krylatov

    Hi Trey,
    Please send my thoughts positive for your wife.
    My wife had 2 tyroid cancers and a third, 3 years ago breast cancer with bad molecule HER2. Chiomothérapie very very hard + breast removal. Now for 5 years minimum she takes an “Anastrozole” drug that causes very rare side effects. French doctors do not understand why … We migrated to Greece. We have an excellent oncologist who helps my wife a lot. YES, there are statistics that say there are known side effects and “rare” cesondary effects. My wife has these “rare” side effects. This Greek mécedin is of great humanity and quality and it understands what my wife expresses. He will adapt the treatment to make it better.
    The family is also very important. My two sons were very present to help. Personally I am 100% involved to help and support Ioanna. There are days when everything is OK … and days when everything is bad … You have to live with and keep the best moments.

  • Alissa Nagel- Esposito

    I’m so sorry to hear about your wife’s diagnosis. Wishing her well. I was recently diagnosed with cancer at age 36 and am currently going through treatments. My husband has been so wonderful and supportive. One of the good things that came from this is you realize how fragile life is, to enjoy your time, and you realize how much you love each other. Keep your chin up super dad and super husband that I’m sure you are.

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